When it comes
to your own personal views, morals and life story – there is no right and
wrong. It is the limit you set out for yourself and the rules too. Or is it? If
we weren't taught some kind of moral or made to adhere to some sort of norm, wouldn't we all just exist without really being a civilized community?
There is a
big huge divide between these elements. You can be taught what is morally right
and what is morally wrong. But again, who defined the morals? Are they correct
to begin with? Yes, they can serve as a benchmark, but you have to know for
yourself.
In this
society we live in, we tend to contradict ourselves. We make laws hoping people
will follow them only to realize that they don’t. Let’s take robbery for
instance. It’s illegal but it’s rampant. Let’s take adultery for instance. It’s
illegal and rampant too. So are several others.
We live in a
society where our elders told us certain things because they were told certain
things. Nobody questioned why. The newer generations wanted to know more about
why they were being told to do what they were being told to do. But the
immediate elders didn't have all the answers because they never asked those
questions.
They were told what to do all along themselves. This gap initiated
the newer lot to turn into rebels.
The ones who always questioned the WHY
behind the SHOULD.
Yes, it is
alright to follow traditions. But who laid down the laws of tradition? A
certain someone at a certain point of time did. If people change with time and
we call it progress – tradition can change too.
But then,
where do you draw the line. If you change tradition, everything changes.
Because the old law slowly ceases exist. Maybe it’s why the past generation
always feels the new one is out of control.
Take for
instance our Indian weddings. We have cocktail ceremonies during week-long
Hindu Marriage celebrations today. That’s a contradiction in itself. And we
have all our elders attending it too.
In this
world, nobody wants to conform blindly anymore. Nobody wants to be led. Nobody
wants to listen if they are not being heard. In the past, people were expected
to keep quiet and not think, but just do.
You cannot
expect to control an entire race and blame it on tradition. In order to make
the race more balanced, there has to be room to change what was. There has to
be a window to change the rules every time a new day begins. We may not realize
it, but we change too without knowing it, every single day.
Limits. Yes,
we have to set limits just like we set targets otherwise we will turn into a
breed of uncontrolled hippies. But it is not for you or anyone to set them. We
can be told. We can be made to understand how something MAY not be right.
Tradition
cannot turn into dictatorship. Relationships cannot be made to succeed unless
we learn to let everyone breathe.
Everybody
wants a slice of the same pie and sometimes marriages break because of this. At
the end of the day, it is about setting your own limits and living a good life.
What makes a good life, is up to you.
Yes, we do need tradition to guide us, not to be a dictatorship. Yes, we do need moral values to guide us, not to dictate us. We need a bit of everything to live.
We also need some air to think and breathe. Every relationship may go through a point where you lose the plot. Where you question everything, you once loved. About each other. Every relationship goes up and comes down. And then you either decide to fight it or break it. That's what people do to each other.
Marriages don't end. It's the people who fail each other. The people fail each other all the time. In society. As family. In relationships.
Because we don't teach our children how to live well. We dictate. We have fallen prey to what 'WAS RIGHT' and tried to live by it. Not realizing that things change, people change. The days change. Everything has to change, over time.
And we will continue failing each other until the point where we see the bigger picture. The one we can't find anymore in this cloud of utter chaos and deception.
No generation is better than the other. Every generation has its flaws.
